Your children owe you nothing! Parents that exhibit unconditional love towards their children by nurturing their interest and validating their opinions and choices even though it may contradict the rules and regulations of family and society,have happy successful and expressive adult children.
Better parenting is conforming to the child's right to be who they are without cohesion, punishments or bribes. Better parenting does not depend on society alone to raise and educate their children.
Independence is the natural order of all species. Herein lies the biggest challenge of parenting, detachment. It is natural for a young adult to want to explore and expand their independence and interest. But often, it is the parent who has become dependent upon the child being in the nest to feel complete. At this point it is time for mothers to turn their full attention towards the further development of themselves.(most households are headed by mothers and grandmothers). We were born to expand our awareness, and the task of parenting is a temporary job, not our ultimate purpose! Society implies that were will grow old and weak and not be able to take care of ourselves and that it is the children's responsibility to care for us. Maybe in the old world this was the case for survival, but in this modern day of information and hi-technology there are many alternatives other than to deteriorate and become dependent in the senior years. Aging must be accompanied by increased stamina and clarity.
The senior years are for retiring from the business of family and society to give full attention towards increasing our awareness, having adventure and travel consistently, having fun and joyful experiences with nature, and most of all having time and space to yourself, with no obligations towards anyone. Then you are forever young and forever in love with life.
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